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Mimosa's avatar

Yes, short kings! Sadly I think part of what makes shorter guys attractive to me is exactly that they can be very self aware and confident BECAUSE they have potentially struggled with their height. It's really easy to forget the things straight men face when dating when you're yourself trying to dodge the bullets of misogynists.

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Loretta's avatar

Oh that's such an interesting theory! I love that!

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Beverley Jackson's avatar

I’m 5’2 but I’m always surprised when I see myself in a group picture. I maybe short but my personality is a a kin to a “bull with a bull horn in a china shop”. I never judge a man or woman by their height - it’s not like they can do anything about it. BTW my husband is 5’6.

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Zobot's avatar

5'11" here barefoot . Thank you for putting into words what I could not, at a very perfect time. I'm dating a new man, he is short, Im absolutely obsessed with him, and I am grateful for your insight because I WILL NOT make note of his height to my friends when they meet him. He is kind and nurturing snd has beautiful hands, is an amazing kisser and fantastic lover.

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Elle's avatar

At nearly 6’ tall I have made do with the height of men around me my entire dating life. Dated plenty shorter than me and spent almost two decades married to a man the same height as me. Now getting divorced, I’m following what my body wants. No more compromising or ignoring my gut feelings, the carnal desires, deep inside of me in favor of logic, economic security, the shoulds , keeping up with the Joneses. I’m not listening to any of that any more. I’m giving my body what it wants for the first time in my entire life. And this new gift to myself means I’m only dating men over 6’2”.

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Anne B's avatar

I have always been baffled by people setting height limits on dating apps! I never set one, and ended up marrying someone who happens to be like one inch taller than me, maybe two if you add in the curly hair 🤣. To me, that reads as “we’re basically the same height,” and again, I didn’t care one way or the other (in fact, from a practical standpoint I prefer same height or shorter because I do a lot of social dancing, and being in closed position with a very tall partner means having to turn your head sideways so your face isn’t buried in their chest, which equals neck pain the next day!).

When I brought it up with my husband (then boyfriend), though, I found out that HE had set height limits on the app, screening out women who were taller than him, because, I don’t know, he’s been too forcefully shaped by all this and couldn’t take being the shorter one. I feel like all these unnecessary barriers make it so much harder to find a connection online! It’s hard enough as it is! We should really let this go, glad your friend pointed it out so directly!

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Sue Kittow's avatar

I’m a bit older than you but I’ve had several shorter boyfriends and they’ve mostly been incredibly good lovers… I’m all for the shorter man. My partner now isn’t too tall and when he mentioned his lack of height I said, “saves me getting a crick on my neck looking at you.”

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MoonMamaWarrior's avatar

Through my 20s and 30s I ALWAYS wore shoes with at least an inch heel and I swore I was 5"7' barefoot (I am not). I believed taller was better, just that inch had me in the upper percentile . . . of what, I am not sure. Short men, in my experience, are superior in bed. FCK the patriarchy!

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Mikey Gno's avatar

On behalf of short men, thank you for writing this

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Alexis Neve's avatar

I like a short king. Perfection is my height or within 5cm taller but I will never understand the obsession with big height gaps my friends have. If it happens that you like someone being taller cool but they like the guys *because* they're tall and I'm like why do you want neck pain for making out ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

And I agree with one of the other takes in the comments, their confidence can be off the charts and that's sexy AF.

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Nicki's avatar

We love a short king! I'm married to one! He is still taller than me by a couple inches, but his height was never part of the equation for me. He has always lied about his height; in person, at the DMV, etc. Because patriarchy of course! He has become more comfortable with it over the years but it is still something that bothers him now and again.

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Dav Eka's avatar

Now tell us about size of the dick. All the right women say size doesn’t matter. And yet?

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Loretta's avatar

LOL. It's a nice size. But my ex was rather well-endowed and the sex wasn't good. I think that size can certainly be relevant but how it's being used matters a ton too! And the curve of it can affect whether or not it hits the G-spot, etc.

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Dav Eka's avatar

So the ‘G’ spot is a thing? I’ve been very good at helping provide multiple “O”s for my partners for a long time but have never gone looking for the ‘G’.

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Loretta's avatar

For me, at least, yes! I can definitely tell when something is getting to it. I have had orgasms from penetration alone because of it, but they are rare (because it is hard to find!).

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Dav Eka's avatar

I must be doing something right. Because my partners penetration Os aren’t rare, and have lots of company from other “approaches”. And to the best of my discernment, faking is not an issue. Because if someone is faking why are you even having sex? I’ve always thought men who get their rocks without making damn sure their woman gets way more, are not just selfish but really stupid. If your lady gets 5 Os to your one, she won’t just agree to sex, she will pull you into bed. Right now!

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Teddi's avatar

A cute bottom is all one needs and no nose hairs

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Alexandra Reynolds's avatar

I find the obsession with tall men fascinating! I see it reflected in their dating profiles where sometimes the only information they include is how tall they are. Which I will always then pass on. I really enjoy being with men who are around my own height (5 feet 7-ish).

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