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I've had a few experiences with divorced dads lately where I've had the thought, "I think I know why your wife divorced you..."

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Oct 5Liked by Loretta

Ugh!!!

For a while I was going to a male healthcare provider who would brag about his prowess during my appointment. How he was better than the other practitioners in his field, etc. I never had any issues with the care I got from him, but I stopped going to him because his behavior reduced my trust in him, both professionally and personally. Why do men think this behavior makes them look good?

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Ugh! It's so unbecoming! Glad you switched doctors!

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Oct 6Liked by Loretta

YIKES! He sounds like a textbook narcissist and the only way to get rid of them is to stop responding and block them. I speak from experience.

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Good to know, thank you!

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I will never forget the time when my hinge date, upon learning I was vegetarian, and that yes, that includes not eating seafood, spent 20 minutes trying to debate me on whether or not prawns feel pain (not fish generally, just prawns). Since I couldn’t definitively prove that they do, he insisted my dietary choice of over 5 years was illogical...

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ugh just WHY.

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The sigh I just sighed on your behalf. 🙄

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Oh man...after my divorce, I ran into a couple of these jackwads as well. They're utterly exhausting.

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Those things would be a turn off for me as well.

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Nopety nope on the uninvieted hugs! I am a firm believer that while many people think hugs are "friendly and safe" they are in fact an opportunity for someone to press their entire body against yours.

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AGREE 100%

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Great piece of advice and very serious to take:

😂 you could have writing about me and the random men I used to call in with my natural interest… and even if I laughed, I find it scary that so many of us are having similar experiences even if we were socialized in different countries and cultures. This is a system, not a casual thing: it happens too often to just be random

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The circumstances are clear this isn’t my ex but boy could it have been 😬

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Oct 8Liked by Loretta

I look forward to reading your newsletter every week. Thanks for sharing.

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Goodness gracious. This whole encounter is uncomfortable to read, and must have been even more cringe worthy to live. Yikes.

I can relate to this, after dating a few men that lavish in the attention of the other and don't bother to ask about you. One and done, thanks for making this so clear!

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