What is Feeld?? I am quite newly separated, on the road to big D, reading All Fours, and identifying with all of this in a way I find compelling and shocking. I keep on thinking, I was dead I was dead I was dead—and I'm NOT anymore. But I am in early days. Everyone I know says the apps are the WORST —stay away!—and I'm gun shy. I'm 54, but I'm fit, thin, attractive, smart, funny, creative (not nearly as confident as that list made me sound😊). I Would love suggestions. On how to get started. I am definitely attracted to younger men.
You have a lot to look forward to! I’ve written a lot about how insecure I was when my 17-year relationship ended, especially because my ex was having an affair. I wrote a whole substack post about deciding to hire an escort because I couldn’t imagine I’d be able to find someone to date! But I was so, so wrong. Feeld is an app (I wrote about joining that too!) that emphasizes transparency, disclosure, and consent, as well as ethical non-monogamy in its many forms. I imagine it has some of the same problems as other apps (I wouldn’t really know for sure though; I was last single in 2006 before the apps!) but I’ve found it to be exactly what I was looking for. Wishing you lots of fulfillment as you continue this journey!
Hi! I've been on Feeld since late this summer. Like any other app, it can be hit or miss. There are jerks on there, but I've also met (and slept with!) some lovely humans. I think you can learn a lot about a person from how they communicate on the app, so I tune into that and follow my instincts. I love that I can be so forthcoming about my desires and my boundaries, too. People there expect and like that! I wrote a bit about that here: https://tothebed.substack.com/p/the-joy-of-sexting
Your tale is wonderful, "To the Bed," great reading. You might really love Molly's Dream in Ulysses, Mr. Joyce is as staggering writer; he sure does know Molly Bloom inside out. You can find it in SEARCH pretty fast. 80 pages of a novel toward the end of the book with no punctuation [Bravo for Mr. Joyce, amazing grace] and one understands every single word as Molly checks out the teen-boys at the pool. Just like now with Prez47 they burnt a whole lot of copies of this staggering novel right in front of the post office in the Big Apple. But check it out. My guess is that you will forever be addicted to Molly Bloom: Molly Bloom's closing soliloquy
...and Gibraltar as a girl where I was a Flower of the mountain yes when I put the rose in my hair like the Andalusian girls used or shall I wear a red yes and how he kissed me under the Moorish wall and I thought well as well him as another and then I asked him with my eyes to ask again yes and then he asked me would I yes to say yes my mountain flower and first I put my arms around him yes and drew him down to me so he could feel my breasts all perfume yes and his heart was going like mad and yes I said yes I will Yes.
Again, you put such raw eloquence to this mid-life, divorced woman awakening.
Thank you!!!
So so so resonant and absolutely my experience as well with mid-40s, post-divorce sex and dating (and on Feeld too)
What is Feeld?? I am quite newly separated, on the road to big D, reading All Fours, and identifying with all of this in a way I find compelling and shocking. I keep on thinking, I was dead I was dead I was dead—and I'm NOT anymore. But I am in early days. Everyone I know says the apps are the WORST —stay away!—and I'm gun shy. I'm 54, but I'm fit, thin, attractive, smart, funny, creative (not nearly as confident as that list made me sound😊). I Would love suggestions. On how to get started. I am definitely attracted to younger men.
You have a lot to look forward to! I’ve written a lot about how insecure I was when my 17-year relationship ended, especially because my ex was having an affair. I wrote a whole substack post about deciding to hire an escort because I couldn’t imagine I’d be able to find someone to date! But I was so, so wrong. Feeld is an app (I wrote about joining that too!) that emphasizes transparency, disclosure, and consent, as well as ethical non-monogamy in its many forms. I imagine it has some of the same problems as other apps (I wouldn’t really know for sure though; I was last single in 2006 before the apps!) but I’ve found it to be exactly what I was looking for. Wishing you lots of fulfillment as you continue this journey!
Hi! I've been on Feeld since late this summer. Like any other app, it can be hit or miss. There are jerks on there, but I've also met (and slept with!) some lovely humans. I think you can learn a lot about a person from how they communicate on the app, so I tune into that and follow my instincts. I love that I can be so forthcoming about my desires and my boundaries, too. People there expect and like that! I wrote a bit about that here: https://tothebed.substack.com/p/the-joy-of-sexting
Thank you so much for your response. I LOVE your writing‼️
Your tale is wonderful, "To the Bed," great reading. You might really love Molly's Dream in Ulysses, Mr. Joyce is as staggering writer; he sure does know Molly Bloom inside out. You can find it in SEARCH pretty fast. 80 pages of a novel toward the end of the book with no punctuation [Bravo for Mr. Joyce, amazing grace] and one understands every single word as Molly checks out the teen-boys at the pool. Just like now with Prez47 they burnt a whole lot of copies of this staggering novel right in front of the post office in the Big Apple. But check it out. My guess is that you will forever be addicted to Molly Bloom: Molly Bloom's closing soliloquy
...and Gibraltar as a girl where I was a Flower of the mountain yes when I put the rose in my hair like the Andalusian girls used or shall I wear a red yes and how he kissed me under the Moorish wall and I thought well as well him as another and then I asked him with my eyes to ask again yes and then he asked me would I yes to say yes my mountain flower and first I put my arms around him yes and drew him down to me so he could feel my breasts all perfume yes and his heart was going like mad and yes I said yes I will Yes.
That is so beautiful. I hope the best for you. I hope the yearning and the burning will even out.
That was an emotional rollercoaster - thank you for sharing ❤️🔥