I am here for ALL of the pleasure that we can claim. Love this for you. You were generous to share your gushy truth with us š¦ā¤ļø hereās to getting the joy where + when we can!
Thank you for sharing, I am glad that you decided that the only way was through! I am also happy that the gentleman you chose was respectful and valued your consent and enthusiasm!
Good question! I checked in with my friends several times after sending the cheese emoji (including once we were back in the room). He and I had talked about the possibility of my changing my mind at any point, too.
Thank you so much for this. I see so much of my own experiences mirrored here - both the exhilarating and the unsettling... I think the first time I had sex post-divorce (a divorce I didn't want) was a REAL doorway into a whole other self. Like you, I was shocked at what I found myself saying / do. Very frequent moments of "Who the hell is in charge here??" Now, looking back, I can see that every step was necessary, that I needed some sort of seismic shift / rupture... and I got it!
Iām overjoyed for you!
As I read, my stomach clenched waiting for the dissociation, discomfort, assumptions, lack of communication, listening, and consent.
You give me hope for cis het men, and the ability to start again. ššš
I do not know you so maybe this is a wired thing to say but I am SO proud of you + exhilarated for you.
Oh my gosh not weird. I soooooo appreciate it!!!
I am here for ALL of the pleasure that we can claim. Love this for you. You were generous to share your gushy truth with us š¦ā¤ļø hereās to getting the joy where + when we can!
I love this for you and thank you for sharing. We need to hear more of these stories!
Thank you for sharing, I am glad that you decided that the only way was through! I am also happy that the gentleman you chose was respectful and valued your consent and enthusiasm!
Me too, Piyush!
Thanks for sharing your first post-divorce experience! It's pushed me (a non-writer!) to start my own substack and share my experiences there.
Just stopping to comment t that you sent the cheese emoji just becuz he was hot? What if once you got to your room, you changed your mind then?
Good question! I checked in with my friends several times after sending the cheese emoji (including once we were back in the room). He and I had talked about the possibility of my changing my mind at any point, too.
This was wonderful.
Thank you so much for this. I see so much of my own experiences mirrored here - both the exhilarating and the unsettling... I think the first time I had sex post-divorce (a divorce I didn't want) was a REAL doorway into a whole other self. Like you, I was shocked at what I found myself saying / do. Very frequent moments of "Who the hell is in charge here??" Now, looking back, I can see that every step was necessary, that I needed some sort of seismic shift / rupture... and I got it!
I should tell the story of my first time after divorce -- it was a threesome with a long-married couple. And it helped me feel single again.
Congratulations!!!!!