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Greg V's avatar

Pleasures like that can be so much more fulfilling when they're unexpected.

Also, "ethnically non-monogamous" is a funny typo 🤣

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Loretta's avatar

ha omg fixing now thank you

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Damon's avatar

It's a Freudian slip. Never going back from black.

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Tess Wilde's avatar

I too am ethnically non-monogamous hahahahahaha

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Zobot's avatar

Midrange penises are the BEST

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Christina Lane's avatar

This is a great essay and super relatable as a woman who up until age 40 also had a hard stop when disappointment came sexually or attraction wise but now realize it’s often just an experience I haven’t had yet.

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Barry Goldmember's avatar

WE ARE SO BACK

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Duane Cummins's avatar

Guys with average penises are smiling at you all over the world... ;-)

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Alex N.'s avatar

I felt this. I was with both large and small guys (dick wise) and while being filled to the brim has its own kind of satisfaction, I tend to be less overwhelmed with smaller dicks, like I can feel other parts of myself better. And yes BJs are the best this way! haha, nice article. I do hope we get over this big dick energy in the media and romance literature soon

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Bear Wiseman's avatar

I have noticed, in my limited experience, than the more moderate men had better general success at getting me to orgasm without other stimulation. The smaller fellows also seem to indeed have more technical capacity to give pleasure to make up for the lack of size.

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Bear Wiseman's avatar

Also getting rammed in the cervix before you're warmed up suuuuuuucks...

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Almost Full Disclosure's avatar

interesting article, as someone who tends to be on the small side(5 inches) which some say is average but either way I'm comfortable with it, I appreciate the perspective, there are more than one way to get a woman to orgasm and over the years I have tried to be inventive and for the most part it works. Perhaps us 'smaller' guys put more effort and creativity into it because we feel we have to. For me I just want the woman I am with to enjoy sex as much as I do.

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Bear Wiseman's avatar

This has always been my understanding. I feel like "big" guys are lazy. They just rely on size. Guys with smaller equipment learn other techniques with hands and lips and tongues and whatnot. I would wager that average and smaller men are probably better, more attentive lovers.

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Cindy DiTiberio's avatar

I loved this piece!

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SalinasT's avatar

You’ll find the gold mind of small penises r in the current Congress.

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Attractive Nuisance's avatar

Wow. I have no love for Congress but body-shaming them to comment on the rare article that is supportive of smaller sizes is pathetic. “Gold mind” and “r” confirm this impression.

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Bill Suefert's avatar

There is nothing wrong with any size whether it be cocks clits breast or nipples just enjoy it’s all good

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Sara Mozelle's avatar

I have not loved big or small. I like medium/average but thicccc haha

I was just telling the universe about my future husband’s penis size yesterday. 😂

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Höhlengleichnis, das's avatar

Its ok. I like small breasts.

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Willem's avatar

I always doubted my size, until a woman told me honest while we were busy that i filled her well and that she did feel so much

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Pete Collegio's avatar

There is no such thing as a bad blowjob

You’ll never hear a man say oh please stop

I’ve only had maybe half dozen relationships in my life, but I never had to push a woman’s head

I think it’s only a matter of practice and becoming comfortable with each other

Most importantly, I think, especially for the woman is having fun

Yes, fun

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Toiler On the Sea's avatar

I'll just say . .hard disagree there 😆

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Antoinette Accampo's avatar

Interesting

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