One thing I've realized as I've grown older is how much power we have when giving blow jobs. They can shove our head down as much as they like, but it's our teeth around their dick, so... 🤷🏼♀️
But seriously. There is something so exhilarating in that power, in having them come absolutely undone while we're the ones on our knees.
I just don't wanna do it first thing in the morning before I've brushed my teeth. 😂
That’s very true. There’s a true physical power there, and men become VERY vulnerable during blow jobs! For me, that sense of physical prowess was always overshadowed by the broader power dynamics at play, though. Also, there was something about men’s presumption of safety that always rubbed me the wrong way. I never got the sense men were nervous that I would hurt them during a blow job, and that sense of automatic safety felt kind of …. unfair! Women enter into sexual encounters hoping that we will not be disrespected or hurt or raped. Men, for the most part, know they’ll be just fine. (See also: men being able to walk home alone in the dark without safety ever having to cross their mind.)
“I wanted to experience his body responding to my mouth and my tongue. I wanted to watch, feel, hear, and taste him as he got increasingly turned on — because that would turn me on” A major delight for me too, with or without edging 👀 beautifully put
"Why, Dr. Emily? Why are you telling women to not only ignore their sexual preferences, but to actually train their bodies to override safety reflexes in order to give men even more pleasure?" Yes, that advice made me cringe. I love the way the story develops. Doing it because *I* want to, and in that power, discovering the pleasure.
here, here! I literally can only give you a BJ now if I really like you and respect you. Ive had guys want to pay me for BJs and Im like NOPE. I dont like you nor respect. But when its the right guy, then Im ALL FOR IT and it is fun!
Isn’t it empowering when it’s for you and no one else?? When you’re choosing to do it because you want to b/c it may turn you on or you get off on giving him the experience…
Glad to hear you’ve discovered that it’s sometimes quite pleasing to know you’ve made someone feel good! Wait until you apply that to things outside the bedroom, it’s gonna blow your mind!
One thing I've realized as I've grown older is how much power we have when giving blow jobs. They can shove our head down as much as they like, but it's our teeth around their dick, so... 🤷🏼♀️
But seriously. There is something so exhilarating in that power, in having them come absolutely undone while we're the ones on our knees.
I just don't wanna do it first thing in the morning before I've brushed my teeth. 😂
That’s very true. There’s a true physical power there, and men become VERY vulnerable during blow jobs! For me, that sense of physical prowess was always overshadowed by the broader power dynamics at play, though. Also, there was something about men’s presumption of safety that always rubbed me the wrong way. I never got the sense men were nervous that I would hurt them during a blow job, and that sense of automatic safety felt kind of …. unfair! Women enter into sexual encounters hoping that we will not be disrespected or hurt or raped. Men, for the most part, know they’ll be just fine. (See also: men being able to walk home alone in the dark without safety ever having to cross their mind.)
“I wanted to experience his body responding to my mouth and my tongue. I wanted to watch, feel, hear, and taste him as he got increasingly turned on — because that would turn me on” A major delight for me too, with or without edging 👀 beautifully put
"Why, Dr. Emily? Why are you telling women to not only ignore their sexual preferences, but to actually train their bodies to override safety reflexes in order to give men even more pleasure?" Yes, that advice made me cringe. I love the way the story develops. Doing it because *I* want to, and in that power, discovering the pleasure.
Ya the best part about the act is that men feel they are having fun and in control but it’s always the woman who is …
here, here! I literally can only give you a BJ now if I really like you and respect you. Ive had guys want to pay me for BJs and Im like NOPE. I dont like you nor respect. But when its the right guy, then Im ALL FOR IT and it is fun!
Isn’t it empowering when it’s for you and no one else?? When you’re choosing to do it because you want to b/c it may turn you on or you get off on giving him the experience…
Happy exit from retirement! I like them now too… and sex more broadly!
Glad to hear you’ve discovered that it’s sometimes quite pleasing to know you’ve made someone feel good! Wait until you apply that to things outside the bedroom, it’s gonna blow your mind!
This is … absolutely correct. Can confirm ✅
Sounds like there was such a weight of expectation around sex that you couldn't take a neutral view of blow jobs (maybe 'I'll like this, maybe not).